Thursday, October 30, 2014

Life Like That

Assalamualaikum...

Setiap kali apabila pergi 'dating' untuk breakfast, aku pasti melalui sebuah Sekolah Rendah Agama.

Ada 2 perkara yang menggerakkan aku berbicara di sini:
1. Kecomelan anak-anak kecil berbaju sekolah agama. Yang perempuan berbaju kurung dan berkain hijau dengan tudung di kepala, manakala yang lelaki dengan baju melayu putih, bersamping dan songkok hitam tertenggek di kepala. Sungguh comel. Ada yang girang, ada yang muram. It reminds me of my kids when they were at these age. Cute. Clean. Naive.

2. Ibu bapa yang menghantar anak-anak ke sekolah. 90% berkereta pelbagai jenama, 10% lagi bermotorsikal atau berjalan kaki (mungkin rumah berhampiran). Ramai yang mengiringi anak ke pagar, tolong bawakan beg, ramai juga melepaskan peluk cium hanya di tepi maupun di dalam kereta. Isu hangatku di sini adalah tidak kurang juga yang bercita-cita menurunkan anak betul-betul di depan pagar, memberhentikan kereta secara semberono tanpa menghiraukan trafik di belakang atau laluan orang lain di hadapan. Aku yakin, hasratnya baik... untuk memastikan anaknya selamat masuk ke pagar.... siapa yang tidak.... semua ibu bapa pun begitu!!! Cuma berprihatinlah .... semua orang nak cepat, semua orang berkepentingan, jika berhajat menurunkan anak betul-betul di depan pagar, maka cara terbaik bersabarlah sehingga keadaan mengizinkan untuk kereta diberhentikan di hadapan pagar itu. Jangan pula mengganggu lalu lintas, menghalang laluan mereka yang juga ingin bersegera.

Wahai ibubapa! Ingat slogan 'Kepimpinan melalui teladan'? Kita menyediakan contoh untuk diteladani anak-anak. Jika kita tiada prihatinan dan timbang rasa terhadap orang lain, bagaimanakah anak-anak ingin mencontohi akhlak mulia itu?

"Parents shape and mold the child" ... prepare a good shape and mold for a good outcome. Insha Allah.

Wassalam.
~mangsa

Monday, October 27, 2014

Tahun Hijrah 1436

Assalamualaikum all ......

Salam Maal Hijrah 1436.

That's the wish that you heard many said. Some follows with apologizing for all the wrongdoings. And some with new determination and hopes. All are good. Nothing is wrong with that.

1. Good wishes - yes, we are encouraged to wish everybody good at any times, be it to someone that we know or we don't. The simplest and easiest way to say the wish is the simple 'Assalamualaikum warahmatullah'.

2. Apologize - yes, we are also required to always apologize for whatever wrongdoings that we might have done. Psychologically, the famous Dr Fadzilah Kamsah once said that everybody should practice to forgive people before going to bed everynight. It gives a pleasure feeling.  If we apologize and able to forgive, we would be happier.

3. Determination and hopes - yes, we should always determine and hope to improve ourself day by day. As the saying, "Hopefully today is a better day than yesterday".

Hijrah is the Islamic calendar. It is devised during caliphate Osman ibnu Affan RA. It is not based on certain Islamic teaching. The months in arabic has already being known long during the jahiliah period. During the his time Saidina Osman thought that it is time when it is being recorded. Having a calendar. And he began marking the calendar during the month of Muharram. And in conjunction with the Prophet hijrah from Makkah to Madinah earlier, they called it the hijrah years. History recorded that the Prophet Muhammad SAW began his hijrah on 28th Safar and reach Madinah on 12 Rabiul Awwal. Therefore, 1st Muharram does not mark the day Prophet Muhammad's hijrah from Makkah to Madinah. 1st Muharam does not mark the day when your 'record book' is being brought to Allah SWT. There is no such thing as 'open book' or 'close book'.

The only thing that is relevant about Muharam to islamic teaching is the fasting on the 10th of Muharram. History recorded that there are many things happened on that day among which is the drowning of the Firaun in the Red Sea while going after Prophet Musa AS. And the fasting on the 10th of Muharram was earlier a compulsory on all Muslim before we are all instructed to fast throughout Ramadhan through the verse 183: alBaqarah. After the verse came, the fasting on the 10th of Muharram became a sunnah.

Just the year before the Prophet leaves the world, he got to know that the Jews were also fasting on the 10th of Muharram. He asked them and was told that it was a rememberance for the day Prophet Musa AS escapes and the drowning of Firaun, Prophet Muhammad claimed that Islam has a better right to appreciate that event. He later said, in a form of accepted Hadith that if he would live for another Muharram, he would perform the sunat fast (saum) on both the 9th and 10th of Muharram. This is to differentiate from the Jews' practice. However... the Prophet never had the opportunity to live for another Muharram. He passed away. And the sahabah claimed that based on his saying (hadith),  we can perform the fast either on both 9 and 10th of Muharram.. or.. we only fast on the 10th. If the Muharram fasting was once a compulsory, it shows the high degree of importance for us to fast on that day.

So, lets do not miss this opportunity. As much as we want to be a better person in iman and taqwa, lets make this small step for a betterment... lets fast the Muharram fast. Whether to do it only on the 10th ot do it on both 9 and 10th. You know yourself to make a decision. But a decision not to fast is not acceptable at all.

Wassalam.

Friday, October 24, 2014

Ajal

Assalamualaikum

Pepatah berkata, ..."Pantang maut sebelum ajal".
- Bermaksud, selagi belum sampai ajal seseorang, tidaklah akan mati orang tersebut.
Allah berfirman: "Setiap insan akan menghadapi maut".
- Teringat ketika bapak terlantar dalam ICU dipasang dengan alat bantuan pernafasan.... ramai yg berpendapat agar alat tersebut dicabut agar bapak pergi dengan aman. Tapi aku berkeras, aku berpegang pada janji Allah, "tidak akan dicepatkan atau dilewatkan walau sesaat pun nyawa anak Adam". Bagiku, jika ajal bapak telah sampai, walaupun dipasang dengan alat bantuan pernafasan termahal di dunia sekalipun, seseorang itu akan kembali jua ke Penciptanya. Aku berkeras agar alat itu dicabut.... dan terbukti.... bapak dapat menikmati kehidupan untuk 4 tahun selepas itu. Tapi kini, telah 2 tahun bapak menemui Penciptanya. ALfatihah utk bapak. Kami tetap mendoakan bapak.

Tiada benaran pada kenyataan, "jika tak melintas jalan, pasti kereta tak langgar dan mati di situ". Tidak timbul keadaan, "kalau tak naik MH17 hari tu, pasti sekarang mereka masih bersama kita". Semua itu dusta. Palsu. Jika tidak melintas, jika tidak naik MH17, tetapi berada dalam bilik besi atas katil empuk dalam persekitaran yang paling selamat sekalipun, bila telah sampai ajalnya, maka "kau pergi jua". Kejadian-kejadian tersebut hanyalah penyebab kematian. Manusia yang berakal suka menilai sesuatu secara logik dan inginkan penjelasan bagi setiap kejadian. Dan peristiwa2 itu menjadi penyebab kematian untuk akal dan nafsu manusia. Hakikat sebenarnya kematian adalah kerana, ajalnya telah tiba. Malaikat izrail perlu memainkan peranannya. Menjalankan tugas yang Allah tetapkan padanya.

Hakikatnya adalah..... matinya seorang anak Adam adalah kerana ajalnya telah tiba. Bukan kemalangan, bukan sakit, bukan cancer, bukan terhempas kapal terbang yang menyebabkan seseorang itu mati.... tapi .... kerana ajalnya telah tiba. Kejadian- kejadian yang berlaku hanyalah menjadi cara kematian berlaku.

Discovering that the lumps reccur, 2 on both sides will not make the reason for me to die. I will die when the time comes. And I should be prepared, well equiped myself for a longer life in the hereafter. What was the famous sayings by the Gen Y..... "Ahh..... no hal. Small matter. No big deal. Jangan kecoh-kecoh la.... "

Smile..... may our days to come will always be a better day in iman and taqwa.

P/s: Caution: Just do not purposely walked blindly onto a busy road, or into a brazing fire, or jump into a deep river when you know you cannot swim, or eat as much as you like, whatever you like uncontrollably till you get yourself into serious health problems, or get yourself hurt only because you are holding to the sayings... "these will not make me die". Bear in mind that those activities can be considered as hurting yourself and the beautiful and kind Islamic teaching forbids us to hurt ourself. Our precious body and life are a gift from Allah SWT, therefore appreciate it.

Wassalam.

Sunday, October 19, 2014

1 trip, 4 visits

Assalamualaikum.

Another trip up North for me this weekend. It was unplanned. It was after Isyak, mak came out of the room, she was upset .... my elders brother could not take her home this Sunday as promised earlier. Knowing how she longed to be home, we agreed to send her home. Anyway we are going to Tapah to fetch Atikah and we eventually planned for a ziarah mission.

Along the highway scenery - Malaysian marble

We were off at about 9am. Reached Tapah at about 10.30am. Finished loading her one semester things into the bonnet and resume our journey. We stopped for lunch at the-never-stopped-before Rural Transformation Center (RTC) in Gopeng. The place is comfortable. Ample facilities. The food is OK. We might stop here again. At 3pm we arrived mak's house in Kg Pertama. And at about 4pm we arrived the SP house to see my brother in law was there. Its like a weekend family gathering.
Then the ziarah mission begins. 

Our first mission is to visit Aunt Rohani, the wife to abah's cousin. She's in the hospital Sultan Abdul Halim, Sg Petani. SHhe has been there for two weeks. Kidney failure on both her kidneys. She is 46. Visiting her make me realize the importance of keeping a good health. Make me appreciates the good health that Allah grant me now.

The second mission is to visit PakCik, mak's brother in law. He is 84. Admitted to same hospital two days ago for ulcer in the stomach. Looking around at the beds in the hospitals we saw people from the various walk of life with the various health problems and diseases. Old and young alike. These are the test Allah had befold upon us, to test our iman and taqwa.

The third mission is to visit Mak Teh, mak's elder sister. She's 75. She broke her foot tripping in a toilet at an RnR. Glued at her seat, we pitied her for not being able to move around gracefully as before for this time being.

Leaving this last house at about 9pm, we were very tired for being out for 12hours but happy to have completed our mission. Alhamdulillah. What is the fourth mission? The fourth mission is actually the first and foremost - to visit mak (just don't get confused- every married individual will have 2 mothers, and i like to address both as 'mak').

Sunday, we left early to avoid the traffic if any. Stopped by at Kg Pertama to say goodbye to mak. And in sha Allah we'll be back. And ... almost like usual, we will stop at the Bukit Gantang for the RM1.50 nasi lemak. And another stop at Tu Dia Pak Tam for the iced coffee.
The used to be RM1 nasi lemak

Alhamdullillah....safely arrived in Shah Alam.

Wassalam.

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Kelahiran

Assalamualaikum ...

Lihatlah bayi comel ini
Lahirnya ke dunia ini tidak disambut ibu yang penyayang
Jauh sekali bapa sebagai pelindung
Lahirnya ke dunia meruntun pelbagai jiwa mulia
Syahdu ...
Anak yang tidak berdosa ini menerima akibat
Padah dosa seorang lelaki, mungkin juga akibat noda seorang wanita
Di manakah nilai kemanusiaan manusia 
Dimanakah naluri keibuaan seorang perempuan

Pun... berpuluh, beratus malah mungkin beribu tangan menadah doa
Pinta kerahmatan dari yang Esa
Moga bayi yang tiada dosa ini besar bahagia
Dalam pelukan didikan insan yang taat beragama yang benar
Moga besarnya kelak menjadi insan bertaqwa
Menjadi pembela agama

Tidak kurang jua doa 
Buat perempuan yang melahirkan
dan lelaki durjana
Moga ada ruang keinsafan dalam diri
Moga ruang taubat dimanafaatkan
Kerana Allah itu Maha Pengampun
Allah itu Maha Penerima Taubat
dari hambaNya yang benar-benar insaf



This cute little baby was found at around 2am at the Surau Mawaddah, Shah Alam. Found by a group of devotees to Allah who had a program there and plan for a qiamullail short after. The sound of a baby crying raise their curiosity which led to the findings of a newly born baby with the umbilical  cord still attached to him. The baby was simply wrapped in lady's gown. Roaches and ants are already on their way due to the smell of fresh blood.

Alhamdulillah, the baby was saved. Allah had sent a group of young men as the baby's savior for the night. And among them was a medical doctor whom knew just what to do with the newborn. They wrapped the cold baby with their towel and blanket and tried to make the baby comfortable as much as they can while waiting for the police and ambulance to come.

O ALLAH! What mother would ever do such a thing... what saddened me the most is that the  so called 'mother' might be in our close vicinity. And we failed to open our eyes for this misbehaves. Forgive us Ya Allah. Forgive us Ya ALLAH.

Allahu Akbar.


Sleeping soundly at the hospital without mother's hand to cuddle


Wednesday, October 15, 2014

The siblings

Assalamualaikum ....

This is not an easy moment to capture.
First, they rarely had time to be at home together, the three of them at home at the same time. Each has a different calendar. Their holidays are scarcely overlapped. Hakim has the least off days among the three.

Second, all three are working together, hand-in-hand to clean-up the front lawn and later wash the floors. Willingly. In fact they enjoyed it till I made them stop.



They are the jewels in my heart. All grown up. 
I prayed for them, day and night. No mothers wouldn't do that. 
Pray for the best of them in the world and hereafter.
Pray for their success, happiness and health. 
Pray for iman and taqwa.
May Allah bless them, always and forever.
They are the jewels of my heart.

To have them around is the music in my heart.
To send them off is a hole in my soul.
I wish I could have them cling to me for ever and ever.
But to let them go is to love them more.
It is the small mujahadah that we make.
To let Hakim leave the house at the age of eleven causes tears day and night.
To see Sabrina's long face as she disembark the car stirs the might.
To send Atikah off shudders the feeling inside
To enter the quiet house ...
To walk into their empty rooms ...
To hold the clothes they recently wore ....
O Allah! Only to You I voiced it out
The feeling of loneliness that no one can tell
It teaches me to grow, 
And now ... I understand how my mother would feel

My children, I love you all.... the jewels of heart .....

Yesteryears ...
Allahu a'lam