Thursday, February 25, 2010

Kasih Anak

"Kasih ibu membawa ke syurga,
kasih saudara bawa bahagia,
kasih anak???? ..... moga tiada derita".

Those are the Malay proverbs ( the first two lines), the third line is 100% mine, therefore no citation is required.

This entry is a continution to my previous entry. It is about what we have discovered when we were in Sg Petani. Something that we never thought would happen so close to us. Something that we have read in newspapers, listen from the news and shook head about it. It's definitely not something pleasant to hear. Especially when it happen to a person who has fed you when you were small, washed and bathe you when you were young, stayed up when you were sick, supported you when you are sad and suport you financially when you begin your adult life ... not when it happen to a person you called 'MAK'.

We wanted to visit my husband's auntie who was not feeling well and stayed with her daughter in Alor Setar. Since we have never been to that house, we called to get the location or address (well, mobile google map will asisst us to the location), but was told that auntie is now in a nursing home as the daughter is going elsewhere. Oh! Nursing home??? Well ... nowing the well-off auntie, we were quite sure that 'the' nursing home will be that rich people normally send their parents to. Beautiful aircond room, private nurse and nice ambience .... this must be pretty interesting to visit. Since the place is just in Sg PEtani, Abah decided to follow us.

Astaghfirullahal azim. Subhanallah.
My heart shouts as I stepped down from the car in front of the nursing home. With untrimmed grass, someone screaming intermittently, few others wandering around the gated house unpurposely, we stepped into the house. We asked permission to see auntie and was directed into the house. I was looking at few ladies on the wheelchair, thinking that auntie might be one of them, but NO!, auntie was lying on the bed helplessly.

We walked closer to her, she looked up, tears started to run down her aged cheek (she was 82 years old), and she said, "Wan mai? La .... tut tut tut macam dok kat neraka. Tak boleh dok la. Ingat kot tempat ni ada doktor boleh bagi ubat. Depa hantag mai sini. Tengok la ....". She was sighing. Abah was so lost of words. He was very upset. Don't worry Abah, your children will never do this to you, insyaAllah.

I felt like crying but I hold back my tears as I have to be strong or I will add the stress in her. We talked, we get her few things that she requested and wnet back. We cannot take her back immediately as we are not the decision maker.

Auntie does not have any child on her own. However she has 4 adopted children who are now successful in their own life. Auntie took care of them just like any mother would. Even if auntie is not their flesh and blood, readers, .... just think! would you do that to someone you called Mak???? Will you???

They might have their reasons. Whatever their reasons are ... it's not the way to treat someone whom you called MAK. When auntie was taken to the hospital in ambulance (she cannot walk on her own due to the illness), her blood pressure was so low, it was 80/35. Her face was swollen (not sure why). Alhamdulillah, auntie has caring sisters who stayed nearby who are concern about her and send her to the hospital. And now auntie is recovering.

"Ya Allah, aku pohon kepadaMu, kau kurniakanlah kami, anak-anak yang soleh dan soleh, yang berjasa kepada kami, ibu bapanya. Berikanlah mereka kasih sayangmu dan rahmatmu. Kau peliharalah kami dari segala perbuatan yang tidak sepatutnya ke atas kedua ibubapa kami. Ampunilah mereka ya Allah. Amin."

Note: Wa Mah passed away in July 2010 at her son's house. May Allah blessed and placed her among the mukminins. Amin

Monday, February 22, 2010

CNY 2010

We were talking about new year celebration last night when suddenly Hakim blurted, "Mana boleh sambut Tahun Baru Cina, kita bukan orang Cina". There's a truth in there - kita bukan orang Cina, however, we explained to him about the celebration. It's a celebration for the beginning of a new year for the Chinese not a religion festival. We mentioned to him that it was just like celebrating 1st January .... "mana boleh sambut 1st January, bukan orang Islam", he argued. And again he is CORRECT. I cannot argue further ... but slowly I explained to him about the celebration. It's not HARAM to wish them happy new year as there is no religious belief in it. It's only the way how we can show the warmth feeling that we, Muslim have towards non-muslim. Even not very satisfied .. Hakim except the explanation.

So, did we celebrate CNY? Of course not!!!!!! But we enjoyed the long break.
What do we do? WOW!!!! THE BEST of all .... It's a journey that brought us to Dungun-Kota Bharu-Sg Petani.
Tiring but very enjoying.
And whats make BEST???
It's the BEING TOGETHER with the family.

Malay proverbs says, "Jauh perjalanan, luas pengalaman" .... and I add ..... "banyak pengajaran".

Day 1: Shah Alam - Dungun
We begin the journey as early as 5.00 am (trying to beat the traffic). Alhamdulillah, we managed. But there were already many cars on the road. When we stopped at Genting Sempah rest area for solat Subuh, there were many people there too. i like to see many people at the musolla as it is a proof that there are still many practising Muslim in Malaysia, alhamdulillah. May ALlah bless us with taufiq and hidayah at all time. It was an enjoying journey. We stopped at Maran for breakfast, continue our journey and reach Dungun at about 12.30 pm. As the 'tuan rumah' was not at home, we satisfy our appetite with 'Nasi Kukus' at a restaurant on the other side of the road. Then we head to Kak Yan's house as her children were at home.

The interesting episode here is ...... JENG JENG JENG ... they didn't know that we are coming ......., they thought it's only Mak, Bapak, Din & Abang. I should have recorded their surprise faces when they saw us. He he he he .... we like to make surprises.

Mak & Din arrived at about 3pm. And abang about two hours later when we are already at the Kuala Abang beach. It's wonderful to look at the kids happy faces at the beach. Adults and teenagers were chatting happily. it's a pity that abang Man and Kak Nah were not there, or else it will be a wonderful and unforgetful gathering.

At night, we were served barbeque by the host. Umppp .... yummy yummy ..... macam kenduri. BESSSSSSSSSSTTTTTT......

Day 2: Off to Kota Bharu.
We decided to move on to Kota Bharu after lunch. It's a stop before proceeding to Sg Petani for a visit to our parents, mak & abah. Almost lunch time, abang persuaded everybody to go to K.Trengganu for lunch. So, we packed the cooked lunch and off to KT for another picnic at Pantai Batu Buruk. But the heavy traffic slowed our journey that we decided not to stay for lunch but proceed to Kota Bharu via Setiu, Permaisuri, Tok Bali & Bachok. It's a new experience for us in these areas. It's new scenery, and again we enjoyed. We arrived at the hotel at about 6pm. After solat Maghrib we went out to find food and tried to locate familiar places in KB. But .... KB has changed tremendously!!!! Islamic state proof to be managed well and able to developed without fund from the federal!!! ALLAHU AKBAR! 3X. Try to find the restaurant selling nasi air, but we end up eating nasi kukus again.

Day 3: To Sg Petani
We checked-out of the hotel at about 9 a.m. Since hotel's breakfast is only for two, another three of the family member have not had their breakfast yet. So we decided to find something to quiet the 'noise-making' stomach. We end up at a small 'warong' near the hotel. We ordered 1 nasi berlauk, 2 nasi air and 5 drinks. YES!!!! I finally managed to eat the long missed nasi air (tried maikng it few times but not the same as the one eat at a warong). For the first timer, Sabrina & Hakim, it's was love at the first taste.

We continued our journey to SP by taking the route to Pasir Mas, Tanah Merah & Jeli. It was again a very interesting experience especially for the kids for the diferent scenery as we are so used to driving on the highway. This time, it's driving through the villages, Kelantan villages. But ....ahhh .... it's a crawl. There were too many cars on the road until we reached Jeli. From Jeli, the traffic was smoother. We stopped at Bukit Bunga for a while (pantang nampak orang menjual!!), get something (he he), some drinks, food and move on. Our next look forward view is the Tasik Banding. Yes!!! it was a breath taking view. Subhanallah .. You have created all the beautiful things for us to THINK of you. Forgive us ALLAH ... Then which of the favours of your Lord will you deny? (Surah al-Rahman).

We reached Sg Petani at about 6pm, hungry.

Day 4: At Sg Petani.
My husband decided to visit one of her aunty who was not feeling very well recently and currently staying with her daughter. After making few calls, we were informed that she was currently at a nursing home ... hmmmm (talk about this in next posting). We visited her twice that day.

Day 5: BAck to Shah Alam
We left Sg Petani at about 9 am, after breakfast. But ... there are few stops along the journey. First stop, at Mak Nun's, next Teh's and finally my parents'. Since we just met my parents' in Dungun, so we decided its going to be a brief stop. But .... mak has prepared lunch for us. Thank you so much MAK!!! I hope I will be a loving and caring mum just like you ... Mak, you are always my dearest in my heart. You are always the first person I'll think of when I'm happy or sad .... I LOVE YOU SO MUCH MAK. May Allah blessed you with good health always so that you can continue your devotion to HIM unlimitedly.

After lunch (at about 11.45am), we hit the highway, a journey back to Shah Alam.

This CNY holiday is a vacation & ziarah for my family. May there's a reward for all the good deeds and nawaitu that we had done throughout the journey. May Allah forgive us for any unrealised wrongdoings. Amin.

Monday, February 1, 2010

Malang Tidak Berbau

Astaghfirullah al-'Azim. Innalillahi wainna ilahi raji'un.

Don't get me wrong. No casualty here. Innalillah .... is what we should say when something bad happen not only when there's a death.

This occured yesterday, 31/01/2010 at Section 13, Shah Alam, near the rear entrance to the stadium. Nope. I'm not involve. Alhamdulillah. Neither did any of my family nor friends. Alhamdulillah. I was just being nosy. We (my husband & me) were on our way back from Pasar Tani when we encountered this. From far we can see a fire engine blocking one lane. We also saw a police car with its siren still on. We quickly fasten our seat belt (terlupa tadi!!! hihihi). As we passed by, this is what we saw.

As I said earlier, just like to be nosy, my husband pull to the side to join the crowd. It was an accident between a Volvo and a Proton Wira. According to some witnesses (macam pemberita lah pulak), the Proton Wira is trying to make a U-turn there when it was hit by the Volvo. According to the driver of the Volvo, he saw them stopping, so he accelerated, however, suddenly the driver of Proton Wira decided otherwise and proceed with the U-turn. It was a hard hit (we presume) from the damage of the two cars. The Volvo was not badly affected, but both it's airbag was activated, and broken his front bumper. No injuries at all on the driver. The Wira, .... as you can see. The passenger was badly affected. No blood seeen but we can hear the victim groaning in pain. The driver looked puzzled and in pain at the same time. When ambulance came, both are rushed to the hospital.

Doa naik kenderaan -Az-Zukhruf 13-14

سُبْحَانَ الَّذِي سَخَّرَ لَنَا هَٰذَا وَمَا كُنَّا لَهُ مُقْرِنِينَ وَإِنَّا إِلَىٰ رَبِّنَا لَمُنْقَلِبُونَ

[3 Supaya kamu duduk tetap di atasnya; kemudian kamu mengingati nikmat Tuhan kamu apabila kamu duduk tetap di atasnya, serta kamu (bersyukur dengan) mengucapkan: Maha Suci Tuhan yang telah memudahkan kenderaan ini untuk kami, sedang kami sebelum itu tidak terdaya menguasainya. [14] Dan sesungguhnya kepada Tuhan kamilah, kami akan kembali!