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One day, a mother and daughter were cleaning the dishes after their meal. Earlier, they were preparing the meals together. Then suddenly the daughter asked ....

Daughter : Why must this be the women's task? (referring to the task they did earlier, preparing the meals and cleaning).

Mother : Nope. This is not solely the women's task. The men can do this too.But as a wife, we want to do the best for the husband, therefore, we took up this task.

Daughter : Why must one married? Isn't being single is more relaxing and free.



 At this point, the mother must think fast. The answer must be meaningful and justifying because the children of the current millennial are different. They want facts and realism. Bothers no more to what others say.

So, this is what the mother said.

Mother : The benefit of marriage can be seen from two perspectives. Duniawi and uhkrowi (worldly and the hereafter).

Duniawi (Worldly) benefits: you have a life companion
- Someone that you can share everything with. Happiness and sorrow.
- Someone who will see the beauty and ugly you, and accept it.
- Someone who will listen to your stories
- Someone to laugh with
- Someone to keep your adrenalin active ;-)

That one reason comes with many benefits that place you in a peace state, thinking state, active state, fills every hook and nook of your lives.

Ukhrowi (Hereafter) benefits : Being a wife and mother also place us in the most difficult task in the world. That is to be the companion to the husband and the bringing up of the kids. These two tasks are not a robotic or mechanical job which exhaust your body, but it exhaust both your body and mind.

But as mother and wife, even though we know that it is tough, we will still perform our best because we know the reward is extremely luxurious, is the jannah (heaven). Jannah is extremely great, thus, the road to jannah could not be that easy. We will have to endure the hardship in order to obtain the great gift.

That's the reason for the marriage.

In fact, that's the reason to live. Everybody to play a share of their role, in the way that would benefit others.

For unmarried, the time that you have is not solely meant for you. You have other obligations to fulfill too. And everything is for the reason, that is to obtain the great reward from Allah SWT, The jannah.

Therefore, married or not married, both comes with an important task in life. To become a khalifah and to perform whatever that we must in order to gain 'rahmah' from Allam and thus rewarded the jannah.

~ some food for thought

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