'Abortion' - : defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionay as the termination of a pregnancy after, accompanied by, resulting in, or closely followed by the death of the embryo or fetus:
It is something that every expecting mothers are afraid of. Mothers will always try to do their best to ensure that the baby in their womb is healthy. Whatever good food recommended by the doctors will be sought for. Whatever supplements that are claimed good for baby will be consumed by mothers. The dos and don'ts will be followed closely. That is how mothers try as much as possible to make sure that the baby is healthy. This is exceptional for those who do not want the baby - Na'uzubillah.
Whoever had gone through this period will understand the feeling, the loss, especially if the baby is long awaited baby. I myself had three miscarriages after waiting for more than four years for my second baby. The feeling was heartsick, heartbroken, mournful, sorrowful or any other words that show the sadness of the mother. I am still melancholic over the loss. However, I believe, Allah knows better. Allah knows what is best and what is not for me. And HE has given me the very best of all. I am fated to have only 3 kids. Anyway, .... it was more than 10 years ago. So, why brought it up today?????? Because .... I have a good news for those who had miscarriage before.
Last Thursday, in a religious class conducted by Ustaz Firdaus, he mentioned about MISCARRIAGE and handling it. There are several ways handling the fetus:
1. If the fetus is less than 40 days, we need only to wash the fetus, wrap it and bury it at any convenient place.
2. If the fetus is more than 40 days, we need to bathe it according to Islam, perform solat for the fetus, say dua', named it and later bury at an Islamic burial area.
When reciting dua', the dua should be meant for the parents not the child as we normally did to the deceased. This is because the child is already clean, and free from sin. Jannah is already promised for the baby. However, the dua' is for the parents who patiently accept this faith.
And according to Ustaz, based on a Hadis Qudsi, for parents who have had miscarriages disregard of the duration of the pregrnancy (2 weeks, 4 weeks etc.), Allah will ask the Malaikat to build a house for the parents in Jannah and named the house as 'Baitul Hamd' whenever the parents say Alhamdulillah and accept the faith.
This is really a good news to me, and I hope for everybody else too. Allah Ar-Rahman, the Most Merciful, for every single deeds that we do, be it small, the reward is huge. Only by saying Alhamdulillah to his small test, we were rewarded with a house in Jannah. Let's work our way to Jannah. InsyaAllah.
Wassalam. Ramdhan Kareem.